THE DRAMA QUEEN IS BACK; HER DRUG OF CHOICE WAS ADRENALIN

Diane Asks Coach Linda for help:
I can’t believe it; I am starting all over again with my business. In the past two years I have had to close my business and move locations three times. Each closing creating more financial hardship because of the loss of client work for a couple of months.

Since this is the third time this is happening, can you help me with insight to stop this pattern from resurfacing now that I am ready to reopen my business again? --Diane

Coach Linda’s “Assessment and Help”
SITUATION
Coach Linda Berger gave Diane a call to assess her situation and to talk to her about any common clues as to what was really going on for her.

Diane explained that she does love drama because of the adrenal rush she gets from having to think on her feet and handle the fallout of the drama. It seems when Diane needs a break or some time off, circumstances come together where dramatic situations converge and life offers her some needed time off.

OBJECTIVES/GOALS
Coach Linda suggested Diane take the time to listen to what she is telling herself when business becomes overwhelming. Diane typically would find out what she would do in her life once she had the adrenalin rush from her dramatic situations. Since drama was her drug of choice.

Diane was to discover that her beliefs were based on the mundane chores of everyday life. What opinion did she hold regarding being ordinary, boring, uninteresting or common? What did these words mean to her? How did they affect her when thinking of herself as any one or all of them?

SOLUTIONS FOR CHANGE
Coach Linda told Diane that her need for life to be colorful and have the feeling of being full of life, was a need that covered up a fear. This is a faux feeling of passion that she would get from her drug of choice –adrenalin.

Diane’s assignment was to do the introspective work discovering the words that start the chain reaction leading to another financial hardship.

She wanted to stop the pattern, and self-discovering was the only way to do it, because she had been on autopilot. She was in a cycle where she thought she needed time off because “life is too mundane” she thought. She always created a solution using drama. When she felt the rug being pulled out from under her, she immediately generated fuel –adrenalin from drama—that she thought she needed to overcome as victor and reestablish her business. And the cycle continued.

AH HA CHANGING MOMENT
Diane’s ah ha moment sneaked up on her when she least expected it. She was rebuilding her business from a literal sense--painting and plasterin--when the light bulb went off.

Her “drama queen” persona presented Diane with its own version of ‘some time off’. Time where the queen could express her creative flair, be creative and color her world any color she picked for the walls of Diane’s soon to reopen business.

Diane realized had she just made the choice to give herself permission to take some well needed time off on a much needed vacation, that she could return to a thriving business taking care of her clients, making money doing what she loves.

RELEASING A BLOCK TO CHANGE
It didn’t take long for Diane to let go of this pattern and release any block to changing the drama queen’s reign over her life and business. She took action immediately.

She hired a painter, refocused on getting her business back on track, planned a vacation, and decided to make time for creative expression so the drama queen inside her would not feel neglected and end up “taxing” her financially.

CHANGE RESULTS
Diane was attuned enough into her intuition to realize something was amiss and that it was time to wake up and see what was calling for her attention.

The change that resulted from introspection opened up her life experiences to a healthier way of running her business, giving herself permission for some R and R, and for reestablishing her acting and painting.

As for her drug of choice, Diane decided that “real fueling” of her real passions far outweigh the repercussions of faux passion from drama fallout.

The trick to the drama queen inside is to retire her, but give her something to do so she will not get you in any more trouble! --Coach Linda