Angie asks Coach Linda for Help:
“I bet you haven’t heard this one before- I just got a raise and I feel unworthy of it! I keep thinking that I don’t work for the amount of money that I am making. I manage a very busy and stressful office environment. I train my staff, interview and hire new additions to our office, “put out fires”, oversee millions of dollars of client’s money and that isn’t even my daily “to do” list.
I know that I am a dedicated employee and my boss acknowledges my value to the office. I have continued to receive my raises every year but for some reason, for this one, I am embarrassed to share my good news.”
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Linda’s Response to Angie:
After speaking to Angie and getting some more background on the situation and where these feelings of unworthiness were stemming from, she got her “ah ha” moment and changed her way of looking at this situation.--Linda
SITUATION:
Angie got a well-deserved raise, which she felt unworthy of receiving. Her boss appreciates her, her staff respects her, and she has gained the respect of the affiliates she encounters with her job. She has been in the process of interviewing candidates for a position in the company. Many of the applicants are over-qualified for the position and have Master degrees when she has none.
Angie also just bought a bigger house with her wonderful new husband and her kids are happy and healthy. So what could she possibly see be wrong with this picture?!
OBJECTIVES / GOALS
Angie wanted to understand why she would make herself feel bad about all the abundance in her life, most especially her raise.
SOLUTIONS
Angie admitted she felt bad for the people she was interviewing because she felt they were lowering their standards to want the job she was offering. She felt they could do so much better with their education and experience. She also felt bad for the people who are struggling in their life right now - with so many losing their homes, job and money.
Angie was afraid to feel how fortunate she was to have made it through her own very difficult times in her life. She had never stopped to validate her own struggles. She told me the most difficult and scary time was when she needed to leave her abusive husband but didn’t have a job or money and had a young child and a baby to take care of. That reality was one she tucked under the rug, and then put her head down and just kept moving forward to make her life better. Never looking back to see what she had accomplished and who she had become because of it.
TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS
Coach Linda suggested she pull that part of her out from under the rug and validate the Angie of those struggles. It was the struggles, and the strength, courage and knowledge that Angie showed, that made her boss and staff see great value in her.
Coach Linda also suggested that Angie take a look at the strengths she developed while growing up in her childhood neighborhood, strengths that you do not receive degrees for, but none-the-less help her with the job requirements. Could the applicants sitting across from her holding titles she does not have, balance the personalities and responsibilities with such precision day in and day out? We don’t know if the answer is yes, or no, nor is it important.
The task at hand for Angie was simple, yet challenging – to find the value in the fruits of her labors that were planted in her past struggles and to eat the fruit from her tree which is bursting with abundance and nourishment.
“AH HA” CREATING CHANGE MOMENT
Angie’s ah ha moment came when she realized that by moving forward and never looking back ( her mantra was next – next – next) landed her right where she is – in a life bursting with abundance without the knowledge that she deserved it. It was hers for the taking. She planted the tree and now she can freely eat from it – the abundance was true and real—worth the struggle.
RELEASING AN EMOTIONAL BLOCK
Coach Linda suggested Angie honor the courageous Angie inside of her—the one that got her out of a bad situation by saying encouraging words to the applicants that she thought were too good for the job they were applying for. She would believe and see something in them that they may not see. She will quietly believe in their strength and in their own plight.
Angie knows what it is like, and she will empower every applicant who comes to her, by acknowledging their value to them, and she will acknowledge to herself that they will make it through, just like she did.
BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
Angie knew how important the process of change was for her to transform the limiting feelings of unworthiness. She just wasn’t clear as to where they were stemming from. Once she experienced the process of her ah ha moment she had a whole new level of appreciation for her journey and the life it created for her. She says she will never feel sorry for people. Instead, she will view them in their potential, knowing she did that for herself, and they will too. She realized everyone is just trying to do the best they can.
Linda’s note:
And here is to you and your wonderfully abundant life, Angie.
Thanks for the opportunity to help you change.--Linda
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