REALTOR SUFFERS FROM CHANGING MARKET CAUSING DEPRESSION

“My real estate business has always been a consistent source of income. Then business just stopped.” --Mike

SITUATION
When Mike joined the Productivity Booster Coaching Program he had doubts that his business would recover in the current real estate market.

He was going through his savings while attempting to keep up with the market changes. Mike was taking training to learn new tools necessary to keep up with the market changes but to no avail. His production numbers barely changed.

What Mike didn’t realized was the impact this struggle created on his emotional state of being. He had internalized a state of hopeless and had not recognized the signs.

He felt as if the weight of the world was on his shoulders and he had no idea what to do to change it. He just kept showing up for his business and taking more classes trying to get something to change as he watched his debt grow and savings disappear along with his sales production.

OBJECTIVES/GOALS
Mike knew he wasn’t going to leave the real estate business. But he also knew that he was not equipped to find his way through the massive changes that had swept through his business and life.

Mike wanted to resuscitate his real estate business and bring his production up.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS
Coach Linda asked Mike to organized the systems and procedures he had already established in his business. He was to redefine his goals with quarterly benchmarks. She asked him to reassess his way of doing business including how he allocated his time and money.

She knew that in order for Mike to overcome the hopeless state he was in, it was imperative that Mike create very well thought out and realistic goals. He would then make a plan with precise action steps to take, and time tables to follow, in supporting his goals.

This would give him a daily focus with benchmarks placed in strategic locations to empower Mike in knowing he was making progress.

BUMPS IN THE ROAD TO A BREAKTHROUGH
Mike told Coach Linda that he had made goals in the past that had not been met; wouldn’t it be the same? “I keep showing up for work day after day, month turning into another month without a commission check.”

This was Mike’s hopelessness speaking; he was programmed to be being disappointed again. What he didn’t know was that this time it would be different because he had a few safety nets in place. Mike hired a coach and his goals were realistic, not based on trying to keep up with the top producers in the office.

By trying to keep up with top agents, Mike inadvertently set himself up to feel inferior, thus allowing hopelessness to set in.

AH HA MOMENT
Mike followed Coach Linda’s instruction to the letter. He got his ah ha moment when he realized that even though he was taking new classes and learning new skill levels he continuously put himself down by comparing his current production level to his past and the production level of other so called ‘top producers’ around him.

Mike was too busy putting his performance down to acknowledge the impact that the market changes had on everyone’s business. Other agents were also feeling the effect of the market shifts; they just showed it in a different way. And that maybe they were hopeful in their business, all the while Mike had allowed the energy of hopelessness to weigh himself and his business down.

BREAKTHROUGH: RELEASING AN EMOTIONAL BLOCK
Mike had experienced that refocusing his thinking and being realistic in his goals created hopefulness inside of him. Now, Mike was aware of his internal change from hopefulness and purposeful direction to hopelessness and inferior thoughts.

BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
Mike developed systems inside of himself and his business that would help him red flag a change in his emotional attitude by the increase or decrease of his sales production allowing him to make timely changes back to meeting his goals.

When sales production drops dramatically, look to your emotional state for disappointment and grief which can easily lead to hopelessness. --Coach Linda

THE DRAMA QUEEN IS BACK; HER DRUG OF CHOICE WAS ADRENALIN

Diane Asks Coach Linda for help:
I can’t believe it; I am starting all over again with my business. In the past two years I have had to close my business and move locations three times. Each closing creating more financial hardship because of the loss of client work for a couple of months.

Since this is the third time this is happening, can you help me with insight to stop this pattern from resurfacing now that I am ready to reopen my business again? --Diane

Coach Linda’s “Assessment and Help”
SITUATION
Coach Linda Berger gave Diane a call to assess her situation and to talk to her about any common clues as to what was really going on for her.

Diane explained that she does love drama because of the adrenal rush she gets from having to think on her feet and handle the fallout of the drama. It seems when Diane needs a break or some time off, circumstances come together where dramatic situations converge and life offers her some needed time off.

OBJECTIVES/GOALS
Coach Linda suggested Diane take the time to listen to what she is telling herself when business becomes overwhelming. Diane typically would find out what she would do in her life once she had the adrenalin rush from her dramatic situations. Since drama was her drug of choice.

Diane was to discover that her beliefs were based on the mundane chores of everyday life. What opinion did she hold regarding being ordinary, boring, uninteresting or common? What did these words mean to her? How did they affect her when thinking of herself as any one or all of them?

SOLUTIONS FOR CHANGE
Coach Linda told Diane that her need for life to be colorful and have the feeling of being full of life, was a need that covered up a fear. This is a faux feeling of passion that she would get from her drug of choice –adrenalin.

Diane’s assignment was to do the introspective work discovering the words that start the chain reaction leading to another financial hardship.

She wanted to stop the pattern, and self-discovering was the only way to do it, because she had been on autopilot. She was in a cycle where she thought she needed time off because “life is too mundane” she thought. She always created a solution using drama. When she felt the rug being pulled out from under her, she immediately generated fuel –adrenalin from drama—that she thought she needed to overcome as victor and reestablish her business. And the cycle continued.

AH HA CHANGING MOMENT
Diane’s ah ha moment sneaked up on her when she least expected it. She was rebuilding her business from a literal sense--painting and plasterin--when the light bulb went off.

Her “drama queen” persona presented Diane with its own version of ‘some time off’. Time where the queen could express her creative flair, be creative and color her world any color she picked for the walls of Diane’s soon to reopen business.

Diane realized had she just made the choice to give herself permission to take some well needed time off on a much needed vacation, that she could return to a thriving business taking care of her clients, making money doing what she loves.

RELEASING A BLOCK TO CHANGE
It didn’t take long for Diane to let go of this pattern and release any block to changing the drama queen’s reign over her life and business. She took action immediately.

She hired a painter, refocused on getting her business back on track, planned a vacation, and decided to make time for creative expression so the drama queen inside her would not feel neglected and end up “taxing” her financially.

CHANGE RESULTS
Diane was attuned enough into her intuition to realize something was amiss and that it was time to wake up and see what was calling for her attention.

The change that resulted from introspection opened up her life experiences to a healthier way of running her business, giving herself permission for some R and R, and for reestablishing her acting and painting.

As for her drug of choice, Diane decided that “real fueling” of her real passions far outweigh the repercussions of faux passion from drama fallout.

The trick to the drama queen inside is to retire her, but give her something to do so she will not get you in any more trouble! --Coach Linda

FRUSTRATED WITH THE DRAMA ALL AROUND HER

Jen Asks Coach Linda for help:
I have found myself very frustrated with the drama of my friends lately. The strange thing –I never really noticed it before and now that I can hear it in their stories. I am so annoyed that I do not even want to spend time talking to them, but I don’t want to give up their friendship either.

Any insight into how I can change my way of thinking about them? Is it them or me? Jen

Coach Linda’s “Assessment and Help”
SITUATION
Coach Linda Berger gave Jen a call to understand the specifics of her question. Jen mentioned that she no longer had the patience of listening to the drama of her girlfriend’s lives. She was interested in moving forward in her life and not spending hours talking and listening to the same old stories.

Nothing had changed in their stories although something changed inside of Jen. She didn’t want to loose her dear friends although spending time with them was extremely stressful. She just wanted to tell them how she felt but didn’t want to hurt their feelings.

OBJECTIVES/GOALS
Coach Linda suggested Jen get in touch with the true source of her frustration, by looking deeper into what feelings or thoughts she was trying to become aware of, without dumping her frustrations on them.

Linda explained to Jen that frustration is a distraction covering up a potential unmet expectation, fear or outgrown belief about ourselves.

At this point she could either stay stuck, or she could choose to use this opportunity to take a risk with her friends, in order to overcome this once and for all.

SOLUTIONS FOR CHANGE
Coach Linda reminded Jen that life only has itself to teach us about our magnificence; and these circumstances created an ideal chance for her to grow by risking.

Jen was about to embark on a journey into” risking”, through her friendships. The risk could help her transform a false belief she had discovered about herself. That false believe was: ‘if I risk, I will loose something’.

AH HA CHANGING MOMENT
Jen’s ah ha moment came when she focused in on what was going on inside of her as she listened to the drama of her friends. What was she thinking or feeling about herself?

It was her fear of risking that limited the relationship not the drama. She was inwardly judging herself for not risking -being honest. She wanted more in their friendship and it showed up as frustration by judging their drama.


RELEASING A BLOCK TO CHANGE
Jen felt her friendship wouldn’t be important to her friends if she didn’t continue to play the same role in the relationship. And risking could mean loosing their friendship. Yet, not risking meant creating disharmony within the friendship, and thus causing a rift between them anyway.

In the one, she could choose growth. In the other, she could choose to not risk, and therefore stay stuck.

CHANGE RESULTS
Jen chose to listen to her inner voice discovering what was really triggering her frustration. She chose not to get angry when she expected her friends to change.

By “risking” she grew in courage and strength and created an opening for growth in herself and her relationship with her friends.

In being honest, by telling her friends that she wanted more out of their relationship, and not just the drama of the same old thing every time they met, they all could make a choice to choose to do without the dramas and move into a place where there are bigger and better experiences for all of them.

Honestly looking at our own motives first is always the best policy. Coach Linda

REAL ESTATE AGENTS FILLED WITH INDECISION AND FEAR

Dorothy knew she wanted to sell real estate BUT she wanted to do it on her terms. In the twenty plus years she had spent selling real estate she knew there were aspects of the business that did not peak her interest anymore.

After all, she was a veteran and had paid her dues long ago. Now it was time for fun while making money. And then reality hit…the real estate market took a drastic turn to the left and Dorothy had to make some important changes.

She had choices to make…does she stay and learn the skills she needs, continue down the road she has been going, or leave the real estate business and start a new career or job?

Dorothy’s situation is more common than not in the real estate market as brokerage companies’ profits are hitting an all-time low. There are more agents making up the complexion of the real estate offices like Dorothy than there are high performers.

Brokerage offices are facing lower production levels because many of their agents are hitting production walls like never before.

Even the veterans have to upgrade their business tools and suffer through the time-consuming learning curve to keep up with the market changes. Or do they?

SITUATION
Coach Linda Berger spoke to Dorothy about her situation. Dorothy did not want to leave the real estate market, although her priorities had changed; real estate now was strictly a vehicle for money to pay the bills and supplement her other sources of revenue.

She didn’t want to build a business –Dorothy just wanted to sell a few homes a year and enjoy her life. This goal filled her with guilt and then anger for feeling guilty.

Her dilemma was the fear of having this conversation with her broker, as she had been feeling that she must produce at a high level of production for her office. She knew that her heart was not into higher production and her guilt kept her from even a few closing a year.

Dorothy’s inner struggle to do it ‘her way’ impeded her ability to do it anyway!

OBJECTIVES / GOALS
Coach Linda suggested Dorothy have a heart to heart talk with herself and determine what she was willing to give up in order to have a few closings a year. And where would she draw the line as to not moving one more step forward.

How could she give up the anger blocking her forward movement? What would she need to move forward in agreement?

SOLUTIONS
Dorothy knew she didn’t want to build a business. She just wanted to work a simple plan and use the rest of her time doing other things that she loved to do and be with the people she wanted to be with.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS
She acknowledged her past successes which empowered her to understand that she no longer had anything to prove with a high production level. She had been there …done that. Dorothy just wanted to make some money.

By empowering herself within the boundaries of her working agreement she became very clear on what she would generate within the walls of the company she worked for.

The final step would be to create action steps supporting the choices and agreement she had made with herself and her broker.

AH HA BREAKTHROUGH MOMENTS
Dorothy’s ah ha breakthrough moment came during her heart to heart moment, when life opened to the wide angle as Coach Linda calls it… and revealed that it was okay to work in real estate for the money.

She knew that her desire to always do the best for her clients would continue to be her focus and just because her financial priorities had changed, Dorothy’s work ethics had not.

In that one moment she felt stronger in her choices.

RELEASING A BLOCK TO A BREAKTHROUGH
There were so many other things she wanted to do and the feelings of guilt locked her focus on one choice; and that one choice barred the door to create a few closings that year.

BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
Dorothy made the breakthrough she so desperately wanted to, and released the block to her production.

Now she works for her production level, does what she loves outside of real estate, and touches the lives of people with her talents and knowledge.

In being true to herself, Dorothy opened the door to her own potential and closed more real estate transactions along the way.

When we are in inner turmoil our financial supply starts to diminish. Reconcile the turmoil and the flow starts. Coach Linda

TORN BETWEEN TWO CHOICES

Sam asks Coach Linda for Help:
The past few years have been extremely challenging. I have been dealing with financial matters, family challenges, and losses in my investment portfolio. On top of all of that -I am married to a dynamic and amazing woman.

Since I got married, my wife and I have not been able to concentrate on our life, starting a family or simply moving forward in our life because of all of my important distractions.
I remember reading that you always say to look at the cause not the symptoms. I can see and feel the symptoms but am unable to find my cause. Can you help guide me in the right direction?
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Coach Linda’s Response to Sam
During their call Coach Linda Berger was able to guide Sam in the direction he needed to go. Straight to what he didn’t want to hear.

SITUATION:
Sam has a very big and caring heart which one can only see with close examination and a trained eye. He really cares and is willing to do whatever it takes to do the right thing.

If there is one thing I can spot is a mushy heart behind a tough demeanor. Sam has taken on insurmountable challenges so early in his married life, all of which appear seemingly worth the stress and strain on his life and possibly marriage.

His wife “had his back” on his journey to reconcile the situations on which he felt he had no choice but to move forward. Everyone was counting on him to do the right thing.

OBJECTIVES /GOALS
Sam was focused on what was happening in front of him, and in that process he was completely in a reactive mode of operating. His plate quickly became over-filled with situations creating chaos in his financial and personal life.

Sam wanted to make productive decisions that would allow him to view these situations from a broader perspective, so that he could reevaluate his past choices and find their common denominator. He was looking to name it…tame it…claim it…

SOLUTIONS IN CHANGE
He was caught in reacting, instead of calculating the risk factor. Emotions were replacing his business sense. He knew this road could create financial perils for him in the very near future. He needed to quickly change his perspective and then create a plan to support that focus.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH CHANGE
Coach Linda told Sam that he was in a battle for his strength and courage while being emotionally entrenched in matters of the heart. He could not think himself out of this one.

She explained, much to his chagrin, that his well developed business and decision-making skills weren’t going to work to relieve this chaos. Sam was used to taking calculated risks.

Although the opponent appeared to be the evil forces of family dynamics, the volatile money platforms, and expenses that were quickly adding up, Sam felt he had no control. He just wanted to do the right thing. And the right thing was creating great stress in his life and within his body.

At this point Sam’s only decision was the hardest one he had made thus far –to make a choice –he had to choose.


AH HA CREATING CHANGE MOMENT
Sam’s ah ha changing moment came when he realized he had been a fence sitter. That it takes great inner strength and courage to go against the grain, the so-called ‘doing the right thing’.

Even though all signs pointed to his ‘doing the right thing’…he was really controlling “how he looked” in doing the right thing, by not choosing.

He was letting the circumstances pull him in deeper, versus making tough decisions that build inner strength and courage.


RELEASING A CHANGE BLOCK
Sam’s newly developed decision-making skill level was a life lesson given to him through engaging in his life and the matters of his heart.

He realized that he had been blindsided by the circumstances in trying to ‘do the right thing’. In hindsight, the ‘right thing’ changes with different perspectives and emotional attachments from each person at any given moment.

CREATING CHANGE RESULTS
Sam now knows that personal inner growth happens when faced with what appears to be a higher purpose…in this case his family. But what about his new family? What was the price he was paying to be in control of doing the right thing? He determined to guide himself with his own internal strength and courage, and the “right thing” for him will come out of that.

Is it our task to identify the “right thing” to do, for ourselves? No one outside of us has the key to that knowledge. It is locked inside of each of us for our own discovery. Coach Linda

—CHANGE YOUR LIFE, CHANGE YOUR MIND

There are moments even in a coach’s life that we just do not want to look at the big picture of our life. When blame is so justified and easy to do, why can’t we point the finger at someone for deeply hurting us?
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Coach Linda Berger's explanation to help change your life by changing your mind

As a coach and metaphysical student and teacher for many years it never ceases to amaze me at how many times I find myself getting tripped up by blame. When I want to point the finger and blame someone and say, “I never would have been so thoughtless. Or I never would have hurt you like that. And then of course the all-time favorite one, I never would have said that to you.”

The one common word in all the statements made is ‘never’. The “I never” puts us all into a level of arrogance that I myself do not want to lay claim. Until, of course, I look at the bigger picture and realize that “I never” in reality should have been “I often”.

As a coach and a master of change, having lived through way too much of my own and studied the stages of change in friends, family and clients, I know from an intimate level that change is an unwanted visitor. Change is the visitor you want to hide from –don’t answer the door, the phone or if you put your head down and not look at – change will not see you. Just keep walking.

We all know in reality that is called denial. And I don’t know about you but ‘I have never’ been in denial. As a matter of fact…my fact is…I am a realist! At least I think so.

SITUATION:
One of my dearest and closest friends called one morning and completely dumped everything that she was feeling on me because she thought it was my fault. Something she thought I didn’t do, which I did do, and just did not bother to mention it. And because I made the fatal mistake of not mentioning IT…I broke her heart! Yes, she is a drama queen.

Being a reformed guilt and shame junkie I immediately went into my drug of choice…shame. Feeling sorry for my misunderstood self, I fell into self-pity.

OBJECTIVES /GOALS
When I got off the phone the beaten down shamed part of me immediately went to redo what she had said I didn’t do even though I had already done it. I needed to do a better job the second time around to make my own shame go away.

And as I was in the middle of my shame-filled thoughts of ‘not good enough’ friend, I stopped dead in my tracks because I realized what had just happened. My desire to heal the shamed thoughts and triggers was placed right in my lap, through my friend blaming me. She opened the guilt and shame door and before I knew what was happening, I walked right in.

SOLUTIONS
Even though I wanted to feel sorry for myself having been misunderstood without the opportunity to redeem myself, I knew that I couldn’t stay in that negative energy. I had to remember the big picture in my life and understand that she had given me an opportunity to review my choice of choosing shame and guilt. In this review period I could see how I was responsible for when and if I chose to veil my perceptions in shame.

As a metaphysical student, I know that nothing happens for naught. I owed it to myself and clients to be diligent in finding my own ah ha moment from this experience.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO CREATE CHANGE
My visual for life in simple terms is viewed through my camera lens. I teach my clients and students that life is lived in a zoom lens. We see, hear, speak and feel our surroundings through a single dimensional lens that reflects back to us that which we have it focused on.

We choose the moments to record in our mind and then add the story depending on our audience. Once in a while as we learn to take more and more responsibility for our choices, life opens to the wide angle lens. That’s when we view our life as part of a bigger picture while expanding into a place we cannot see in our zoom lens.

Life becomes about our choices affecting others, instead of others affecting us. And so it was with my choice at this time.

AH HA MOMENT CREATING CHANGE
I came face-to-face with my shame that day, brought on by my friends blame, and I said, ‘NO’.

I realized in that moment that she had triggered by ability to feel guilt and shame. As a shame and guilt ex-junkie, I went right to my old friends and picked them up as I had so many times in my life.

This time something was different. It wasn’t the same. I didn’t get the same charge.
As a matter of fact, within minutes of our conversation, I had figured out what had happened, and I laughed.

My ah ha changing moment came when I knew from my core that I had changed. My drug of shame and guilt had become a teaching tool. I had named it…tamed it…claimed it…

RELEASING A BLOCK TO CHANGE
Now I have to admit, I didn’t want to let this go. I wanted retribution. “How dare you accuse me.” I went back and forth from student to teacher and back again for sometime. If I was the student and learned something from this experience, then she won. A part of me just wanted to win to teach her a lesson.

I didn’t want to admit that I had desperately needed this opportunity to prove to myself that I had truly left the guilt and shame behind me. Guilt and shame were no longer tools used against me but they became more sword and shield to help others.

CREATING CHANGE RESULTS
It took a powerful friend, bonded through love and loyalty, for our friendship to stand up in strength and courage to risk teaching a powerful lesson in life.

How could I hold on to pain when I was given the freedom to heal myself and others by the power of love in friendship. So I let go of the pain, as I accepted my own self-healing.

DAY 9—REALTOR TAKES RISK…WAS IT THE RIGHT ONE?

Jon entered the real estate business in 2008. He was ready, willing and able to jump right in the shifting market and start making money until…reality hit…the market!

Jon had the foresight to envision potential hazards in his new business without the right type of guidance.

Coach Linda Berger was referred to him by agents in his office and started coaching before he got lost in the chaos of lenders not lending money, sellers loosing their homes and buyers just wanting the best deal and then not sure they got the best deal.

SITUATION
Jon realized he was financially risking by hiring Coach Linda even though she had come highly recommended.

When weighing the risks he could –spend money and time marketing and hoping that he was taking the best steps to build a solid foundation for his business or risk adding to the initial investment -hire a qualified coach that knows the real estate business to teach him how to add value to himself and his business and help navigate him through the risk.

He made the investment part of his business start up costs determined it would facilitate a shorter lag time in finding his way around the volatile real estate market.

OBJECTIVES / GOALS
Coach Linda worked with Jon on building a systemized business that would support his goals and would make his growing schedule easier to manage.

Jon knew his most important responsibility to his clients was writing and negotiated contracts to close. Jon also realized that there are a million I’s to dot and T’s to cross so it was essential to his success that he create his operating manual and check lists supporting his systems.

SOLUTIONS
Coach Linda suggested that as Jon went through each aspect of his business that he write down all of the steps taken and the calls needed to create a successful contract to close. Also, to do the same for listings and buyer interviews. He built his systems around the essentials steps in real estate.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS
The most important action Jon had to take was ‘to take action’ and keep taking action in the direction of the closing table which is what his clients expected of him.

Jon worked a scheduled that was built around his goals and business objectives. When he didn’t feel like showing up that day he would review his goals and take out his action plan to motivate him to keep going.

AH HA BREAKTHROUGH MOMENTS
As Jon started to work with more clients and receive more and more referrals he realized the time he invested in building a strong foundation paid off with closings –sooner rather than later. The financial investment he made up front cast the foundation of a solid focused business. He said ‘coaching made all the difference for him and he wouldn’t be where he is now only months into the business.’

RELEASING A BLOCK TO A BREAKTHROUGH
Jon feared loosing his savings if he didn’t have a closing. He also realized he was in a catch 22. Hire a coach to close deals faster or not hire a coach and hope he could do it on his own. He took the risk and learned the value of calculated risk taking instead of blind faith.

BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
Jon has had three closings and three more set to close. He has two listings and two pre-qualified buyers.

Now those are results worth risking for. Linda

A Professional's Age Dilemma

Rose asks Coach Linda for Help:

“I have never paid attention to my age until this last birthday. I was very much affected because in my profession, I let executives go at my age. How can I change the way I am thinking and be thrilled about another birthday?”

Thank you for any help.--Rose

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Linda’s Response to Rose

Coach Linda called Rose and was told this one birthday impacted her emotionally like none other. She felt as though she could be one of the people she had to let go. Being on her side of the desk definitely felt a lot different.

SITUATION:

Rose is in a high level executive position with a job to do for her company in which the future of the lives of her contemporary’s lay in her hands on a daily basis. She is realizing her own vulnerability for change at any age, although most especially now.

Rose was trying to process feelings that she had suppressed in order to perform her responsibilities effectively.

Now, she is coming face to face with those feelings and she is unaware of how to change her thinking or process her fear about the age factor and continue to function at a productive level.

OBJECTIVES /GOALS

Rose needed to process her vulnerabilities around change while continuing to perform her responsibilities professionally.

SOLUTIONS

This was a ripe opportunity for her to look at others differently, most especially when they are moving into another leg of their journey with change. Rose started to let herself feel empathetically for them in a new way.

She learned to understand the process of change from her own experience with it. Rose knew that change was inevitable at any age not just this birthday. She began to empower them to make new choices and to flow with the changes versus trying to stop them.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO CREATE CHANGE

When Rose looked at her fears of getting older in the corporate structure she was better able to prepare herself and others for change. She now felt their vulnerability and fear of leaving a structure that they thought was secure.

Rose found security in her self and not the structure that she had grown to know so intimately. She realized the structures she had built that could be utilized in any business platform.

AH HA MOMENT CREATING CHANGE

Rose had her ah ha moment when she accepted the inevitability that someday she would be asked to leave and move on to her own new journey and that could happen now or at any given moment.

Security was no longer viewed by her as something a building holds but one she carries with her.

RELEASING A BLOCK TO CHANGE

Rose admitted that this change was a big one for her. She hadn’t realized that she had buried fears about change. “It wasn’t even a thought”, she said. “I am good at what I do and I was afraid that this vulnerability would cause me to loose my edge, but quite the contrary. I became more effective in my understanding.”

CREATING CHANGE RESULTS

Since then Rose has lost her own job. The change that she encountered with processing the vulnerability at turning ‘that age’ allowed her to transition her experience in a positive and productive new direction.

Change happens, and Rose went head on into it and landed on her feet in a much better place.— Linda

DAY 7—JULY 8, 2009—CHANGE YOUR LIFE, CHANGE YOUR MIND

Judy asks Coach Linda for Help with Understanding Change:

“I heard that you love to work with helping people change. Can you give me a brief explanation of what exactly the ‘process of change’ is and how it is that we each have our own? I have always tried to stay away from change and you are saying it is a constant. Help!”

Thank you. -Judy

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Linda’s explanation to help change your life by changing your mind

Judy, if there is one thing I am a master of, it is change. I have been on the evolutionary road consciously for a long time and actually starting to really enjoy it. I love to study the process of change and how life can only teach us through itself – living life and having life experiences 

I continue to get very excited talking with someone to help them identify how they process change. I am passionate in teaching people how to manipulate their energy by transforming it into a life force to create abundance and joy. That is what I mean when I say, Name It…Tame It…Claim It.

Once you learn about your process, and change your life by simply changing your mind about the process of change, everything shifts into ‘more’. Your life becomes easier because you are not working against this energy; you are consciously using it. 

SITUATION

Everyone creates a variety of situations in their life for experiences. Remember, I said life only has itself to teach us through our relationships and experiences. People, places and circumstances change but more often than not the driving force behind the change doesn’t budge without an outside force. 

OBJECTIVES /GOALS

Our objective is to live a full and abundant life. Sounds easy…is easy…well not exactly.

Changing your mind about how your life works or not is a tedious and arduous task at times. Why? Because we all want things to stay the same. It is comforting. Just think of your favorite comfortable chair, pair of jeans or shoes. 

SOLUTIONS

Coach Linda knows that change is inevitable and the faster you learn to accept that as truth…your truth, and every one else’s, the quicker you will move into your abundance.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO CREATE CHANGE

In order to discover your process of change to change your life by changing your mind, you want to consciously make a choice and fulfill it perfectly to your word.

Sounds easy. Remember the last time you said you were going to do something, let’s say loose weight, make more money, be nice to your spouse, stop spending money…and didn’t do it?

It is by walking the steps of your words –being your word to yourself—that you discover your process of change. You will take notice of all sorts of fun distractions and very convincing excuses for the very thing keeping you from achieving what you set out to.

As a coach, I know this sounds easy and it is exactly why everyone needs a coach once in awhile to get him or her over this hurdle. Because it is virtually impossible to do this on your own. 

AH HA MOMENT CREATING CHANGE

These are your light bulb moments when what I call life goes into ‘wide angle’ instead of ‘zoom’. The ‘moment’ where everything becomes clear as day and just when you go for a closer look, poof, you are in zoom again. 

RELEASING A BLOCK TO CHANGE

The process of change starts with a conscious choice to make a decision to do something, to act earnestly toward achieving it, and as you keep moving through the situations that are showing up– one day the light bulb goes on – the wide angle is in focus and nothing is ever the same with the situation of concern.

CREATING CHANGE RESULTS

You have changed forever. You have released the block that was limiting your view and you. And your results start showing up almost immediately. It is like you have opened a locked door and let out your abundance.

I hope this does help you. My clients go through this process over and over again.-Linda

DAY 6—JULY 7, 2009—CREATING CHANGE / 365

Michelle asks Coach Linda for Help:

“Every Monday I wake up with a quiet sense of panic and terror. It starts in my sleep on Sunday evening with irritability at sounds waking me up and then night terrors. It seems to be occurring with more regularity in the past few weeks. Can you help me with some insight as to why this is happening?”

Thank you for any help with this matter.

Michelle

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Linda’s Response to Michelle

Coach Linda called Michelle to get some more back ground as to what was going on in her life most recently and to find out the state of her self talk. 

Michelle told me that she recently lost her job and was determined to find her passion and make a career out of it. She would not take just any job. She would find one that gave her a sense of joy utilizing many of her talents and gifts.

SITUATION:

Michelle has worked strictly for a paycheck in the past and since she is no longer employed and has some money in the bank, she wanted to create a career to express her passion for helping people

She had the gift of having a quiet sense of calmness in chaos including the ability to think clearly when under stress. Michelle had run teams and offices so she knew how to bring out the best in people, create calm and enable people to feel heard and empowered.

Her problem – the process of waiting for something to happen – was causing her to go into what she called a silent sense of panic and despair. She had never felt this vulnerable before.

Now Michelle had to depend on her own ability to create a paycheck in order to make ends meet and since she had never really had this responsibility before – she was scared.

Hence – a quiet sense of desperation.

OBJECTIVES /GOALS

Michelle would need to focus on what she wanted and create the courage to get it if she truly was going to live her passion and help people in her new chosen path.

She felt a faux sense of courage with money in the bank. Coach Linda explained to her that when it is time for us to grow by challenging ourselves, our circumstances change. Loosing her job created the circumstance. Michele didn’t feel the full effect of change in the air because she had a feeling of safety with money in the bank.

As time when on and the money was being depleted her so-called ‘courage’ to build a satisfying career was waning.

Coach Linda knows this is a red flag. When a safety net is in place (money in the bank in this circumstance) so-called courage abounds, masking the lack of true perseverance of purpose. What appears to be focus is wishful thinking.

Michelle was about to get a lesson in how her internal workings of autopilot kick into work mode when change is in the air.

SOLUTIONS

Coach Linda’s philosophy is to ‘focus only on what you want’ and ‘to burn your ships’ so you can only move toward your goal. That will work on you being 100% committed to success. Failure will only be a fear not an option. And panic will show up and she will learn to - Name It, Tame It, Claim It – only by facing it.

As Michelle focuses all of her energies on moving forward toward her goal, her internal workings start to go into rescue mode. “WARNING - WARNING - DANGER, you are about to go into unknown territories. We don’t have a proven system for rescue!”

Michelle must consciously take control of the old mode of rescue and create a new one by focusing on her true goal -which may look like a new career path but in reality it is to grow in the power of true courage and strength with a sense of purpose by reaching for her new career path.

It is all right for her to acknowledge the panic and despair while she is validating her actions in moving forward. Michelle would need to use her own gift of compassion and calmness in chaos on her own fears holding her own hand as she puts one foot in front of the other.

In doing so Michelle would learn to trust a new mode of rescue, her own— one supported through courage and strength in her own abilities and intuition.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO CREATE CHANGE

Michelle’s focus had been diverted without her knowledge to rescue survival mode. While she was in a panic mode her dream had faded into a smoky mist of uncertainty and self-doubt, rather than focused on creating her new career –one in which she loved, giving her a great sense of satisfaction in her abilities to create. She was slowing loosing that dream in quiet desperation.

In developing her new chosen path, there wasn’t a paycheck coming in and her savings was being depleted. Michelle would need to consciously reevaluate her expenses.

Coach Linda suggested Michelle write to-do lists to support achieving her goal, breaking it down to categories, time lines, steps to be done monthly, weekly and daily so she wouldn’t go into panic in her sleep. Keeping her mind focus on moving forward.

AH HA MOMENT CREATING CHANGE

Michelle got her ah ha moment when she realized there was a bigger picture going on in her life and that loosing her job opened the opportunity for her to be the person she had always dreamed of being but was scared of risking being without money. She was surprised how little she could live on when it came down to realizing her dreams.

Michelle’s second ah ha moment came when she realized it was just a matter of retraining her ability to jump into action to protect herself. She said, “it is like breathing- I am always protecting my life by taking in a breath which I never consciously think about until I find myself holding my breath in fear.”

RELEASING A BLOCK TO CHANGE

She also realized that the panic and despair was actually a feeling of being vulnerable – a feeling she was not familiar with. In focusing on her dreams she had to face the fears to dispel the energy because she couldn’t concentrate on both at the same time.

CREATING CHANGE RESULTS

Michelle knows she must consciously choose her dreams and that fear will continue to show up, not to hurt her but to protect her. So until choosing the path for her dreams becomes a habitual way of thinking for her she will have to be consciously aware of what she is concentrating on.

Michelle had a renewed and focused sense of purpose. She realized the journey she had embarked on for a new career was really a journey  in her own sense of discovery.

Life only has itself to teach us about our magnificence.—Linda

DAY 5—JULY 6, 2009—CREATING CHANGE / 365

Kathy asks Coach Linda for Help:
“I know how you believe in Time Blocking. When I’m time blocking I feel like I am limiting my ability to be spontaneous. Help! I see the benefits but feel constrained. ” –Kathy

Kathy is facing what many agents feel when it comes to committing to a time blocked schedule in order get more done in less time. Many feel closed in—as if in a box. When in reality a time block schedule opens up your time and you accomplish more in less time with more time for leisure.

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Linda’s Response to Kathy:

SITUATION
Kathy wanted a focused schedule but wasn’t sure how she would actually follow the schedule she made up because up to this point it was only a piece of paper that she organized but did not follow. She would look at the schedule with dread rather than with confidence knowing it was the key for higher productivity and time to herself.

OBJECTIVES / GOALS
Coach Linda suggested Kathy write a schedule of her current workdays, listing what she spends her time on and what she accomplishes. Next she asks Kathy to be creative in what she wanted to create in her real estate business. She asks her to take out her original time blocked schedule and to review it to identify the areas that created the anxiety she spoke about.

SOLUTIONS
Kathy felt restricted in her business by her time-blocked schedule. The schedule reminded her of a strict teacher telling her how and what she was to do in her business. She already knew what she wanted to accomplish and was willing to make the time available but on her own terms. She didn’t “get” the context of her current time blocked schedule.

Coach Linda explained to Kathy that her way of thinking regarding time blocking was very common and it was all right to ease herself into her schedule in creating categories in blocks of time.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS
For instance - creative time for real estate, use colors to coordinate her different functions in business, block in time for spontaneity. Just create blocks of time that build discipline her to keep showing up. Kathy needed to take some action on her schedule, and not just rebel against it.

While in action she could tweak it along the way instead of rebelling against it. Allowing it to sit dormant it would take up space in the back of her mind, zapping her time and energy.

In Coach Linda’s experience time and energy are wasted because Kathy would never really get her mind off of that time block schedule she was supposed to be following for her business to succeed. She knew Kathy would wrestle with the thought of how she could get her way and not let the schedule win over her.

AH HA BREAKTHROUGH MOMENTS
Kathy got her ah ha breakthrough moment when she felt the freedom in the blocks of color for creativity and spontaneity in her schedule. She now looked at her time blocked schedule with excitement and wonder as to what she would create in the slot of time designated for real estate. She was well aware that her to do list needed to be accomplished although that was now an accompaniment to her creative time in her business.

RELEASING AN EMOTIONAL BLOCK
As with most real estate agents, Kathy felt blocked in (no pun intended) with time blocking. Coach Linda has found that most real estate professionals like Kathy are people oriented—and at times to a fault—in that relationships are all they want to establish in their business.

In fact, real estate is a business where systems in building and maintaining its structure must be in place—at the same time as establishing and maintaining client relationships—
which are an essential part of the internal business systems.

BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
Once Kathy changed the context of her time blocking to be more colorful, with blocks of colored time slots to be a creative building process with additional time to be spontaneous, she was unstoppable. The tool that is designed to enrich her business was no longer restricting or confining her. It became her tool to open her schedule, not to inhibit it.

Kathy, just keep coloring your business the color of green because that is what you will be seeing after a short time of time blocking. –Coach Linda

DAY 4—JULY 4, 2009—CREATING CHANGE / 365

Peter writes to Coach Linda:

“Thanks for adding the ‘ah ha breakthrough moment’ on your new Real Estate Productivity Breakthrough Blog. It triggered a realization moment for me in pursuing my new career. I know I’m capable of almost anything I set out to do, but somehow, I feel as if I’m not always totally in charge of all my business success. Yet, I seem to charge ahead building my systems and continue to put one foot in front of the other.

Thank you for helping me by helping others.
-Peter

Thank you for sharing with me. Your ah ha breakthrough moment is proof that we can grow when another person shares their story. This is why I started the blog. I am going to let you break it down for our readers.--Linda

In Peter’s Own Words

SOLUTIONS
If I work on my business as I see it, then I get the requisite energy required to continue to build it in the manner I desire.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS
As I keep building my business the way I want to create it, new doors open for more opportunities.

AH HA BREAKTHROUGH MOMENTS
I had my ‘ah ha breakthrough moment this week after reading someone else’s breakthrough. It was a realization that I was doing just exactly what I wanted to do. No one is my boss; I am the boss and my business is only my responsibility.

RELEASING AN EMOTIONAL BLOCK
I didn’t feel this was an emotional 'block'. It was truly an inspired light bulb moment! All the pieces of the puzzle in that moment came together for the bigger picture. I have been wanting to create it my way and now I know that my vision is possible and by my efforts and design.

BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
That ‘ah ha moment’ is an enormous confidence-builder especially since it is about being myself at all times. Nice to have this happen on Independence Day and I just created independence in my business and in myself.

Peter, Keep looking for those ‘light bulb moments’ because they will clear the path for a strong sense of purpose and confidence in your business. And remember to always share. –Linda

DAY 3—JULY 3, 2009—CREATING CHANGE / 365

Angie asks Coach Linda for Help:
“I bet you haven’t heard this one before- I just got a raise and I feel unworthy of it! I keep thinking that I don’t work for the amount of money that I am making. I manage a very busy and stressful office environment. I train my staff, interview and hire new additions to our office, “put out fires”, oversee millions of dollars of client’s money and that isn’t even my daily “to do” list.

I know that I am a dedicated employee and my boss acknowledges my value to the office. I have continued to receive my raises every year but for some reason, for this one, I am embarrassed to share my good news.”
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Linda’s Response to Angie:
After speaking to Angie and getting some more background on the situation and where these feelings of unworthiness were stemming from, she got her “ah ha” moment and changed her way of looking at this situation.--Linda

SITUATION:
Angie got a well-deserved raise, which she felt unworthy of receiving. Her boss appreciates her, her staff respects her, and she has gained the respect of the affiliates she encounters with her job. She has been in the process of interviewing candidates for a position in the company. Many of the applicants are over-qualified for the position and have Master degrees when she has none.

Angie also just bought a bigger house with her wonderful new husband and her kids are happy and healthy. So what could she possibly see be wrong with this picture?!

OBJECTIVES / GOALS
Angie wanted to understand why she would make herself feel bad about all the abundance in her life, most especially her raise.

SOLUTIONS
Angie admitted she felt bad for the people she was interviewing because she felt they were lowering their standards to want the job she was offering. She felt they could do so much better with their education and experience. She also felt bad for the people who are struggling in their life right now - with so many losing their homes, job and money.

Angie was afraid to feel how fortunate she was to have made it through her own very difficult times in her life. She had never stopped to validate her own struggles. She told me the most difficult and scary time was when she needed to leave her abusive husband but didn’t have a job or money and had a young child and a baby to take care of. That reality was one she tucked under the rug, and then put her head down and just kept moving forward to make her life better. Never looking back to see what she had accomplished and who she had become because of it.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS
Coach Linda suggested she pull that part of her out from under the rug and validate the Angie of those struggles. It was the struggles, and the strength, courage and knowledge that Angie showed, that made her boss and staff see great value in her.

Coach Linda also suggested that Angie take a look at the strengths she developed while growing up in her childhood neighborhood, strengths that you do not receive degrees for, but none-the-less help her with the job requirements. Could the applicants sitting across from her holding titles she does not have, balance the personalities and responsibilities with such precision day in and day out? We don’t know if the answer is yes, or no, nor is it important.

The task at hand for Angie was simple, yet challenging – to find the value in the fruits of her labors that were planted in her past struggles and to eat the fruit from her tree which is bursting with abundance and nourishment.

“AH HA” CREATING CHANGE MOMENT
Angie’s ah ha moment came when she realized that by moving forward and never looking back ( her mantra was next – next – next) landed her right where she is – in a life bursting with abundance without the knowledge that she deserved it. It was hers for the taking. She planted the tree and now she can freely eat from it – the abundance was true and real—worth the struggle.

RELEASING AN EMOTIONAL BLOCK
Coach Linda suggested Angie honor the courageous Angie inside of her—the one that got her out of a bad situation by saying encouraging words to the applicants that she thought were too good for the job they were applying for. She would believe and see something in them that they may not see. She will quietly believe in their strength and in their own plight.

Angie knows what it is like, and she will empower every applicant who comes to her, by acknowledging their value to them, and she will acknowledge to herself that they will make it through, just like she did.

BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
Angie knew how important the process of change was for her to transform the limiting feelings of unworthiness. She just wasn’t clear as to where they were stemming from. Once she experienced the process of her ah ha moment she had a whole new level of appreciation for her journey and the life it created for her. She says she will never feel sorry for people. Instead, she will view them in their potential, knowing she did that for herself, and they will too. She realized everyone is just trying to do the best they can.

Linda’s note:
And here is to you and your wonderfully abundant life, Angie.
Thanks for the opportunity to help you change.--Linda

DAY 2—JULY 2, 2009—CREATING CHANGE / 365

Ann asks Coach Linda for Help:
“I am so tired of running around for demanding and unqualified buyers! I need to run my business instead of letting it run me!” –Ann

Ann was brand new to the real estate sales business, and as with many new agents who fall victim to pitfalls, she was jumping whenever and wherever the next call led her. As we all know, as experienced agents, that rocky road is one that ends in crash and burn. An agent’s energy and career can end up in a heap, without a bit of intervention.

So Ann was told to call Coach Linda to learn “how to run a business” instead of “letting the business run her”.
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Linda’s Response to Ann:

SITUATION
Working a business without a plan was Ann’s problem. As a new agent Ann had everything to learn and was already overwhelmed at the thought of not knowing where to start. She already had a steady flow of calls and was creating leads by doing open houses for other agents.

She needed some basic systems to follow to protect herself from burnout at such an early stage of her budding real estate career.

OBJECTIVES / GOALS
The first thing Coach Linda suggested was to determine a schedule with a minimum of scheduled time for four showing times per week, two open houses, time to build systems, lead generation and lead follow-up.

SOLUTIONS
Ann went through her date book and started coloring in time slots for scheduling appointments for showings - mornings, afternoons, evenings and on the weekend. She also decided she could do a weekday and a weekend open house.

She learned to block office time in to do all of her follow up and lead generation. She set aside time for building buyer systems since that was the bulk of her new leads. Ann started where she was and would build a strong foundation from there.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS
Ann already had leads but did not have a system to qualify them. She created a buyers packet with all of the paperwork she would need and a few extras just in case. She set up a checklist for working with the buyers that she could follow and would no longer have to worry about whether or not she forgot something. She was making mind space by organizing. This gave her a sense of confidence and peace.

Ann also realized she was loosing leads by not following up right away, just because she would misplace the contact information. Another system was created with a day and time for follow up and a checklist of questions to ask and procedures to follow.

AH HA BREAKTHROUGH MOMENTS
Ann’s ah ha moment came when she realized she could actually create the ‘rules of the road’ on how she wanted to run her business. These healthy guidelines supported the well being of her life and business. The big surprise was that her clients ‘would’ agree to them in working with her.

RELEASING AN EMOTIONAL BLOCK
Ann felt a lot of apprehension in setting up the guidelines for her clients. She felt if they wouldn’t work within her business guidelines she would have to let them go and no more clients would follow. This is a fear that many new agents have, but her confidence came from the value proposition that her clients receive when working with Ann. That is what she would sell them, and not guidelines.

BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
Once Ann realized that this really is her business, and like her doctor or dentist, she understood that her clients would adjust because they know the value that they receive by working with Ann, it became easier for her to have strong guidelines but to be flexible so her business would grow instead of creating realtor burnout.

Ann had to adjust, and be aware of, her own sense of self and her value in order for her clients to recognize it. She knew this was a start…a great start.

She realized that she could make up time blocked schedules and systems but she wouldn’t (and couldn’t) follow them in earnest if she really didn’t work on her sense of self and the value that she imparts to her clients. That value is: That Ann is the very best agent for them. She would have to work on selling her value proposition to herself first and then the client would be a piece of cake!

DAY 1—JULY 1, 2009—CREATING CHANGE / 365

Rebecca asks Coach Linda for Help:

“I need some insight to help me change a pattern. This one hurts!!!! Ouch!!!”

About six weeks ago my back went out and then I broke my big toe. This past Saturday I fell on my face and skinned my mouth almost losing a couple of teeth. Scared that I would lose my front teeth and the expense it would create, I immediately went to the dentist. All I could think about was how stupid I was to do another stupid thing. 

After reading your blog post about Janice whom I feel a kinship to as I often feel invisible, I started thinking about what all three situations have in common. 

My answer is pain, my physical pain!

1. Back problem - started when I found out I would loose my job because the company is being sold.

2. Broken toe - I was frustrated because my personal relationship is going nowhere.

3. Skinned face, loose teeth - I had set some very firm boundaries with myself to not get in the middle of my children and their father, my ex.

Help, I need some insight into this pattern before something else happens!--Rebecca

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Linda’s Response to Rebecca

“I feel your pain. Unfortunately, I have been there - done that! I am sorry it took three bouts with pain before you figured that you better reach out. Congratulations you figured it out. It is hard for most people to be vulnerable enough to ask for help. Pain seems to help.”

After talking to Rebecca her “change” looks like this: Let’s break it down to review the components of her situation. 

SITUATION:

Rebecca wanted insights and some relief of these painful reminders that something was off. She also said that she felt invisible in her life. Pain is not invisible and must be addressed. She would have to be courageous and strong with herself through the pain. 

1. Back problem - started when Rebecca found out that she would loose her job because the company was being sold.

2. Broken toe - She was frustrated because her personal relationship is going nowhere.

3. Skinned face loose teeth - She had set some very firm boundaries with herself to not get in the middle of her children and their father, her ex.

OBJECTIVES /GOALS

Rebecca realized she had been following a pattern - the outcomes were familiar but the cause unknown. She knew it was a pattern and help was needed to create a different healthier pattern.

She did a great job of determining some similarities in each circumstance. Since each occurrence created greater pain she knew it had to stop and the only way was to call a professional - Coach Linda. She only needed a little guidance in the right direction to find her answers.

SOLUTIONS

Whenever change is in the air our well-honed patterns and skill levels start to kick into high gear. Here is the pattern as I see it:

1. Rebecca’s job and back support her. Both on the physical level and for making money that supports her emotional and mental well being.

2. Her broken right toe impeded her ability to stand up on her own and to move forward with ease and balance in all areas of her life. 

3. When dealing with her mouth and face, she literally fell on her face and injured her mouth causing pain to talk and eat. Two ways of taking care of herself.

So all three situations have key similarities: money, support, self-care, and moving forward.

TASKS AND SYSTEMS TO REACH SOLUTIONS

In facing the key concerns in supporting herself with money and self-care Rebecca would need to move forward with trust, courage and strength instead of physical pain.

By standing up for herself and setting the strict boundaries in regard to her children and ex, her process of change included discovering some well-honed patterns that had always showed up to keep her stuck in the old ways. She consciously decided to feel the emotional pain rather than physical pain. 

Remember, she said that she was ‘determined’ to stay out of the middle of money matters and that unleashed a score of little tricks she didn’t even know she had up her sleeve. Old way—physical pain.  New and retrained way—emotional pain.

She had to add to her “feeling” vocabulary. One that would let others know what she is feeling and to vocalize her needs. Rebecca had to learn how not to be invisible by retraining her way of communicating in all of her relationships.

AH HA BREAKTHROUGH MOMENT

Rebecca’s ah ha moment came when she realized that pain was a feeling. She also learned that she had an underdeveloped emotional vocabulary, and physical pain was something she would equate as emotional pain. Calling herself stupid for falling or hurting her self again created the all too familiar shame and guilt cycle of feelings. 

The second ah ha came when she realized that it took a lot of courage to withstand the pain she felt to stick up for herself……even though she felt selfish and it showed up as a lack of trust in knowing that she did and would do the right thing by getting out of the middle between her ex and her children. Instead, she had felt the fear (of doing a selfish act) through physical pain. 

RELEASING AN EMOTIONAL BLOCK

Rebecca was learning to trust herself instead of fearing the loss of her job, children, money and relationship.  She felt invisible which equated to the fact that she felt she was not going to be heard or not have her needs met. By being honest in her relationships she had to risk being supported emotionally—in order to  grow through, and past, her inability to state her emotional feelings and the needs that came with them.

BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS

Rebecca told me that in her process of changing her old ways of “same old, same old” she had to come face to face with the challenges of creating balance in her life.

She said feeling frustrated at the physical pain and realizing the emotional constraints she put on herself by not feeling the emotional pain, opened her up to make a new choice. She said that she would work on consciously choosing to feel vs. feeling the physical pain.

She now works with her feelings to guide her versus thinking her feelings and then feeling the physical pain. 

Well, Rebecca, here is to standing on your own two feet! Day 1--A change is made!

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